Birthday

 Romantic Birthday Cards

I am a therapist who deals mostly with male clients.  As you might expect in this day and age, issues of love and romance are in the forefront of my practice.  I get asked all kinds of questions about relationships and how to make them succeed and work better.  Not only do people ask questions about how to communicate more effectively, but also about how to celebrate a loved one’s birthday in the best way possible.  You might think that it is a simple matter, but you have no idea how many people ask me all about romantic gift ideas, romantic parties, and even romantic birthday cards.

It seems as if people think there is some simple solution to all of their problems.  To them, if you get the right bouquet of flowers delivered or the right romantic greeting card, every problem will go away.  People even think that sending romantic greeting ecards is really the way to show their love and affection.  It is as if just the act of buying a present is enough, many of these people believe.  In reality, buying romantic birthday cards can help but it is rarely enough.  What you really need to do if you want to blow her socks off, is make a romantic greeting card of your own.

There is no easy formula to making perfect romantic birthday cards, and this is the whole point.  romantic birthday cards, like any personalized gifts, should reflect something profound and deep about your relationship. Just the very act of making it by hand – and it should always be made by hand, never typed on a computer – show something.  It shows that you love this person enough to take time out of your busy schedule to make romantic birthday cards for them that tell how much you care.

As for what you should put on your romantic birthday cards, for some people this is the easiest part but for other people this is the hardest.  A lot of people think that romantic birthday cards have to have poetry on them, because the cards that you see in hallmark have poetry on them.  Personally, I think unless you are inspired to write a poem, that doing so is a bad idea.  It doesn’t have to be poetic to be romantic.  It just has to express how you really feel about the person. Even if your words are not the most elegant, telling someone that you really care is always the best way to make romantic birthday cards.

Romantic Birthday Ideas

I’m generally considered to be a good source of advice, but finding the right romantic birthday ideas can be a difficult job.  One of my best friends, Jim, is a really good guy, but what you might call unlucky in love.  It seems  that every time it is most important to say just the right thing, he says just the wrong one.  I’ve tried to give him advice before about how to keep his relationships functioning, but he never listens, or at least he always messes it up if he tries.  This year, however, it would be different.  This year he was dating Brenda, and Brenda was definitely a keeper.  I would help him pick out the perfect romantic birthday ideas.

As is usually the way with Jim, his first romantic birthday ideas were a bit grandiose.  He had the romantic birthday gift idea of sweeping Brenda away to a far off island, and regaling her with presents.  When I pointed out to him that she had a busy work schedule that could not afford to grant her a couple weeks off, and that he did not have the money to go through with his plan anyway, he did not get angry.  He was a sport about it.  He asked me what my advice about the perfect romantic birthday idea was.

I know a whole lot about Brenda.  After all, she was my friend long before Jim new her.  But for the life of me, I could not think of what romantic birthday ideas will appeal to her the most.  You see, Brenda is a pretty straightforward gal.  She is practically minded, and not all that romantic.  At the same time, however, she does love to know that whoever she is with is paying attention to her and wants to give her presents.  It is not a matter of wanting things from the person so much as wanting to be thought about.  For Brenda, I figured that the most romantic birthday ideas would be ones that addressed her other interests to show that Jim cared about her as a person.

When I told Jim this, he immediately dropped most of his romantic gift ideas.  He would not get her roses or new clothes, no matter how attractive.  Instead, he realized that the most romantic birthday ideas for her were books.  He would get her several works of fiction by authors she liked.  I don’t know if this strategy is the reason that they’re still together, but it worked.  Three years later, they are thinking of getting married.